Is it what God wants?
In my experience, if God gives you the go ahead with someone, or something, you know. There’s no uncertainty, and if there is, then perhaps it’s not right. There needs to be a sense of peace and clarity in what God’s saying to you – whether that be a green light or a red.
Can it geographically work?
If you’re living ages away from each other do you actually have the financial means to be able to pursue a long-distance relationship? Do you both have the same ideas about how often you expect to speak to each other, how much of your time you’re going to set aside for your other half? You need to think logistics a bit here. Of course if you have a mutual understanding of the type of commitment you’re making, and you’re willing to go forward with a relationship, then that’s cool too.
Will a relationship right now put pressure on other parts of your life?
How busy are you right now? How busy will you be in the near future? You need to think about your work or uni, and other varying commitments. Can you actually maintain a healthy relationship while still doing all your other life activities, or do you need to drop something?
Are you jeopardising a potential future with this person by prematurely entering into a relationship with them?
Do you have the maturity to actually have a serious relationship with this person? Would it be better if you waited until you were older to or in a ‘better place’ before dating? You don’t want to be bringing baggage into a new relationship that you should’ve already dealt with, it’s unfair on the other person, and it’s unfair on your heart. Whether that baggage be from previous relationships, previous hurt or just from insecurities, you’re not going to be made complete when you enter into a relationship, those issues are still going to be there.
Do your family and close friends actually like him/her?
Your family and closest friends that you trust are not emotionally involved and can give you outside perspectives and opinions on this person you are interested. They are able to see what the two of you are like together, if you could actually work, as well as the weaknesses and the strengths of the person of interest.
Are you actually good for each other?
Do you bring out the best in each other, or maybe it’s just one-sided? Do you challenge each other and make each other better people? Are you willing to work through issues as a couple, to sacrifice, and put aside your own interests, to be selfless and willing to understand their opinions?