So now we have the final blog in the Wife/Husband Resume series! It's been so interesting reading the answers and noticing differences between married vs single and men vs women. Have another looksie at the previous blogs if you want to see for yourself. x
Maurice: Honesty and trustworthy would be right up there as the most important qualities to any relationship, but especially in marriage. A good communicator (and not just someone who talk lots) is important, as a relationship requires both communicating your own thoughts and as well as listening to the other person. Someone who is compassionate and forgiving (but not a pushover), and knows how to have a laugh.
Mervin: A loving/caring heart; an ability to almost know you better than you know yourself. Someone who is your best mate and you can do life together with. Being totally honest and open about everything and having nothing to hide.
Marcell: A best friend.
Maximus: Kind, caring, considerate, loving, honest with integrity. Most important that she loves God above everything else.
What would you consider to be the most important qualities in a husband?
Maurice: I think the same qualities apply for the husband, as it does for the wife. Honesty is the best policy and being a good communicator works best when both the husband and the wife have these qualities.
Mervin: Same as the above but also being able to provide for the family and to step up and be the man/head of the home.
Marcell: A best friend.
Maximus: One who loves as Christ loved, who would lay down his life for his wife and family. Respectful, honest, with integrity, able to protect and provide, most important that he loves God above everyone and everything else.
What have you learnt the most about yourself since being married?
Maurice: As a guy, it’s often hard for us to open up emotionally; however one thing I’ve had to learn was being able to discuss my thoughts with my wife in order for her to understand how I’m feeling. It was very difficult, but it is important for any relationship to understand how the other person is feeling.
Mervin: That I'm most certainly not perfect. - Life’s better with two. - I'm pretty much a stallion.
Marcell: To think about your spouse other than yourself.
Maximus: It is extremely easy to be self focussed and expect to be served rather than serving my wife and family. If my relationship with God is not healthy my relationship with my wife will likely be as well.
What type of life advice would you give guys who are getting married?
Maurice: Learn to open up, saves a whole lot of drama!
Mervin: Always live for the other person, putting them first ALWAYS. Keep God at the centre. Just get in there. Put a sock on it.
Marcell: Life is not a bed of roses and marriage is a decision.
Maximus: A beautiful woman is far more than outward appearance, appearances can be fleeting, look for the qualities mentioned above.