We spend a lot of time looking forward to future plans, or dwelling on childhood memories of the days that were, but quite often we forget about the present moment. At 12, I couldn’t wait till I could go to high school, At 15 I couldn’t wait until I could drive by myself, At 18 I couldn’t wait until I would be considered an ‘adult’, and so on. But how many moments and memories did I miss out on because I was constantly a step ahead of myself, living for the future and forgetting about the here and now?
“Hope for love, pray for love, wish for love, dream for love…but don’t put your life on hold waiting for love.” – Mandy Hale
There are so many benefits to being single, yet somehow we’ve been focussing on the downsides. As a single person you don’t need to make co-joint decisions. If you want to buy a car, you don’t need to discuss it with your partner, you only need to make a decision that’s appropriate for you. You don’t need to make any decisions factoring in another person into the situation.
There is freedom in singledom! If you want to do something for yourself, move cities, or even move country, it’s quite financially and physically doable as a single person. Not saying that it’s impossible if you are in a relationship, but then there’s the whole do we do long-distance or do we break up situation. The point of singleness is not that you have freedom from responsibilities, it’s that you have freedom for more responsibilities!
You will save money! When you are in a relationship there will be money spent on dates, presents, outings, petrol, etc. But as a single person this money can be spent elsewhere or saved! In a relationship it’s not always going to be a big deal spending money on the other person because you actually want to be with them and if you have to spend money to do that, then so be it. But there is also a positive side to not spending that money in single life too.
“You don’t need a significant other to lead a significant life.” – Mandy Hale
If you are currently single, see it as an opportunity to learn how to be independent, learn more about yourself as a person and how to be content and whole as one.
“Think about it this way: While being married is about becoming the wife (husband) you are meant to be, being single allows you to focus on becoming the woman (man) you were born to be.” – Mandy Hale
“Don't ignore the love you DO have in your life by focusing on the love you DON'T.” – Mandy Hale
Lets be real, being single isn’t always fun. There are days when your friends are off with their boyfriends and girlfriends, and you realise it would be nice to have someone to share life with. I think the most important thing is to enjoy what single life offers you that those friends no longer have. Enjoying your season, living in this current moment, and living it to the full. Being single shouldn’t be seen as shameful, or as a punishment, it is an opportunity.