Let’s be honest, flirtationships are fun, but they leave you confused and uncertain. If you’re not in a relationship with this person, then technically they’re not your boyfriend/girlfriend; they’re not yours. But at the end of the night, you go home, and you wonder if this flirtationship is ever going to progress into a relationship. You can find yourself in a flirtationship rut.
Yet apparently, flirtationships are all the rage. With 871,298 likes on the Flirtationship Facebook page, they must work for some people right? But from personal experience, I can’t say I’m convinced. At which point do you bring up the idea of progressing into a relationship? Is that even an option? Or are you best just as friends?
I thought I’d reach out to my fellow flirtationship-experienced friends and see what they had to say. Meet my friends Beyonce, Shakira, and Madonna. (Not real names)
Saskia: Bey, how did you realise you were in a flirtationship?
Beyonce: When he said, “we should stop flirting”. He would single me out in a crowd and hug me, or text me a lot.
S: Would you say that the flirtationship worked out for you?
Beyonce: Ah no, quite the opposite. It was worse case scenario. I was planning on this beautiful summer romance, but alas it didn’t happen.
S: From your experience do you think you would go for another flirtationship in the future?
Beyonce: I don’t know, I like being in it at the start, but when it’s prolonged it breaks your heart and it’s not worth it.
S: Were there any songs that you ladies would suggest for the heart broken girls from broken flirtationships?
Madonna: *begins singing “I’ve got one less problem without ya” (Ariana Grande).
Beyonce: Me, Myself and I, I Miss You, and Rather Die Young-, all songs sung by me, and of course Survivor by my band Destiny’s Child.
Madonna: I’d also like to add Dear No One, All in My Head and Paper Hearts by Tori Kelly.
S: Shakira and Madonna, what was the worst thing about being in a flirtationship?
Shakira: When you’re in it you never know where it’s going to go. You don’t know what he’s thinking.
Madonna: Well you try to make yourself more beautiful, more noticeable, to stand out from everybody. You put in effort for them, and that effort goes to waste.
S: Beyonce, tell me a story from an almost flirtationship or an actual flirtationship
Beyonce: I kept saying my words backwards whenever I saw this one guy that I had this massive flirtationship with! I just couldn’t speak properly! Oh this other time In Maths, I really liked these two guys...
S: Wait can I interrupt, two at the same time?
Beyonce: Yes, haha. I loved my boys. One sat to my right and one to my left. I had the best of both worlds! So the teacher asked us to rearrange our seating plan in class and I was like oh no, which one do I choose! So in the end I went with my girl friend, the decision was too hard!
S: Do you have any advice for girls in flirtationships at the moment?
Shakira: Don’t have expectations
Beyonce: Make sure you get some advice from your friends, and from different friends too.
Madonna: Expecting sometimes leads to heartbreak. You jump, but they don’t catch you, so you fall, and then your lying on the cold hard ground (T-Swiz reference).
Beyonce: Try to have ‘the talk’ sooner rather than later.
Madonna: Yeah, because the longer you’re in that flirtationship the more heart break you will feel if it doesn’t work out.
Beyonce: I’d also add that you shouldn’t lower your morals and your values, like don’t do things you would regret. And don’t spoon; there is so much temptation in spooning!
Madonna: Never assume you are in a flirtationship.
Beyonce: Don’t start planning marriages in your head.
Madonna: I would suggest to keep pure like a virgin, and don’t get touched for the very first time.
“If you spend too long holding on to the one who treats you like an option, you’ll miss finding the one who treats you like a priority”