Do you compare yourself to others?
It just becomes a sub-conscious thing to do sometimes. Without even realising it, girls compare their hair, their eyes, their teeth… I could go on…
Is your value based on your outward appearance?
It’s like girls think that if they weigh 3kgs lighter they will be happier. I know from experience that the value I placed on myself didn’t change even when I lost 8kgs. Sure, I was a lot skinnier, but I still looked at my body and was never 100% satisfied. I still noticed ‘imperfections’, and I still thought I could do something more to fix those ‘imperfections.’ Now I’ve learnt that it doesn’t matter what I look like, my value doesn’t come from my outward appearance, it comes from inside. It comes from my heart, my personality, and the fact that I am loved by the most high.
Do you feel inferior when you are around exceedingly good-looking girls?
This one is so easy to do, and so common too. There are always going to be people that we feel are ‘better looking’ than us, that’s just the downside of comparison. As girls we can become insecure and judgemental, talking about those particular girls behind their backs. “She wears so much make up!” “I can’t believe she wore that outfit, she looks so overdressed.”
Do you often feel overlooked or that no one really gets you?
Often this is just a misinterpretation. We can sometimes feel like nobody actually cares, and nobody actually gets us. And sometimes that is true. Sometimes there are only a few people in our lives that truly understand us. I could definitely think of a couple people that truly get me, truly understand me and who I am as a person. But the reality is, everyone doesn’t overlook us, quite often it’s a perception thing. When feelings come from a place of insecurity, it could only make sense that situations and people are misread and misunderstood.
Do you feel like you deserve something but other girls are always stealing your chance for success?
Do other peoples’ expertise, beauty, skills, etc, threaten you?
How do you feel/respond when someone else gets something that you’ve always wanted – like a baby, or getting a boyfriend/engaged, a job etc).
Becoming jealous of other peoples’ happiness in life is the key to unhappiness. Sure, you might’ve been single your whole life, and then you best friend gets engaged to her high school sweetheart, but is this really an opportunity to be jealous or an opportunity to practice unconditional love and support? We always have a choice as to whether we become offended and put walls up, or embrace the hardship and rise above it.