No girl = no cuddles. New girl = more cuddles. I mean who doesn’t love physical touch in a relationship, let’s be honest. But it seems to be particularly harder for guys when that disappears than for girls.
She makes him feel more like a man.
Girls can make guys feel more masculine. You guys get to protect a girl, look out for her, hold her hand, be her man (these sound like song lyrics, haha). Some guys feel more manly when they have a girlfriend than when they don't. They may feel like they can be more respected as a person when they have a bird under their arm.
He loves the nurture he receives from a girlfriend.
She cares about him, supports him, encourages him, builds him up. She brings out his softer side, and he feels safe around her. So without that person in his life, he tries to fill that gap, with another girl.
He doesn’t have a girl to spend time with, to stay up late with, to watch movies with, to go out on dates with, or just to chill with. And lets be honest, hanging out with your girlfriend is a whole lot different to hanging out with your lads. The boys just can’t fill the gap that a girlfriend holds.
He doesn’t have a huge support network to cry to (unlike us girls).
Unlike girls, most guys don't have a huge social support network to hold them up during times of pain and sadness. It’s not exactly characteristic for a guy to cry on his friend’s bed or shoulder, or drown his feelings in a tub of chocolate ice-cream. He may have just a few close friends that he’d open up to, but on the whole men are typically less open when it comes to talking about their inner feelings. So when they lose their main emotional support, there is void, a hole. When the pain is too much a guy may move on to a new relationship so he doesn’t have to deal with his volcano of emotions that are about to erupt. This new wahine will make him feel masculine again, and more in control of himself and his emotions. Everything feels back to normal again.
A relationship with a girl can give a guy validation, and for some guys gives them their self-worth and value. Their identity can come from their relationship, so when that ends they can feel unconfident or unsure of themselves.
Avoiding feeling the feels.
Breaking up hurts, and sometimes more than you could expect. Quiet often, the more you invest into a relationship, the more it hurts. And this is the case with guys too. Feeling the feelings of the break up firstly means admitting to yourself that you are actually hurt. For a guy, this can be hard, he may not realise how much of himself was actually invested into the relationship until they break up and his happiness goes down like a lead balloon. So a guy moves on; he finds a new sheila. He focuses on the outward rather than the inward, because the inward is pain, and it seems easier to avoid feeling the feels rather than actually confronting them.
Going from relationship to relationship is just a cycle of being hurt and then hurting someone else or getting hurt. It just leads to a merry-go-round of broken relationships, which is not merry at all… It’s unfair to your future girlfriend or boyfriend, and it’s unfair to yourself too. Relationships aren’t just fun and games; you’re dealing with real people, and raw emotions. The heart is intricate and delicate, it’s often underestimated, and it’s always more powerful than you expected. As Selena Gomez says “the heart wants what it wants”. (I don't know what that has to do with anything; I just wanted to say it, haha).
But seriously, break the cycle, do it for yourself, do it for your future spouse, do it for the vine.